Marion Daghan Malenky

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Self-respect

What is self-respect? The person who has self-respect simply likes herself/himself. He or she is ok with himself or herself, all the time. To have a self-respect and like oneself is not about being in love with one's appearance in the mirror or life success at work as a company director! The self-respect doesn’t depend on the degree of a personal success. Neither is it a result of comparing ourselves with others (and evaluating, if they are better or I am better). Such comparing gives you happiness, when you are better than others and unhappiness, when someone else is better than you. Success in life and comparing with others are things, which are increasing our self-esteem, which is something different. Self-esteem is based on being in love with what we have achieved or can achieve in future. Self-respect is given. We simply have it or not. With self-respect, we like ourselves just as we are and we don't need to add something more. We are aware of our strengths and weaknesses and they are not making us happy or unhappy.
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Real forgiveness and Love

What is forgiveness?
Here is an example:
Somebody close to you was wounding and mortifying you again and again. Therefore you cannot and also don´t want to forgive him. It hurts you so much, that you think about it all the time. This thought controls you completely! This issue disturbs your sleep, energy and you feel weak and alone.
Try to think in peace, how could this all happen? Could you possibly, unconsciously contribute to this situation? Read More…

Reality as a perfect illusion

Many people ask again and again a question:"How do you know that there are some other worlds or realities? Where is the proof?"The most people believe only what they can see, touch or feel. We cannot prove the existence of other realities in a way people want! How can you see beyond this reality with eyes or ears created to sense only this material world? It is impossible. The spiritual truth is surprising and completely different from what people think or believe. This world, which we supposed to be real, is in fact an illusion. What we perceive as real is the Idea of God Almighty, which takes form of what we see, hear and feel. We can realise this only when we are able to observe everything from distance and not to identify with our ego. This realisation comes after changing perception and point view, how we interpret, what we experience. There is one beautiful story about this topic. I offer you here a shorter version of the original story, which can be found in the book Yoga Vasistha written by Swami Venkatesananda:

Once upon a time in a city which did not exist, there were three princes who were brave and happy. One them of two were unborn and the third had not been conceived. Unfortunately all their relatives died. The princes left their city to go elsewhere.
Very soon, unable to bear the heat of the sun, they reached the shade of three trees, of which two did not exist and the third had not even been planted. After resting there for some time and eating the fruits form that trees, they proceeded further.
Then they reached a huge city which was about to built. They entered a palace, which has no walls yet. They took ninety-nine minus hundred grams of rice and cooked it. Then they invited three holy men for dinner. Two of them had no body and the third had no mouth. After they all had eaten the dinner, they were greatly pleased. Thus they lived in that city for a long, long time in peace and joy.

The creation of this world is no more real than this story. This world is nothing more that the idea of the Infinite Consciousness. Meditate about this and try to feel it, not to think about it.

Why is my life not improving?

I am a spiritual person, I meditate and read spiritual books, but despite all of this effort, my life is not good. Why?

Many people experience this situation, they maybe feel also betrayed, frustrated, alone. And because every person is different, there are also different reasons, why is the life situation of certain people not improving. The most common reason is, that people didn't understand the spiritual ideas properly and deeply. The biggest mistake is, that people take some idea, which they like and this idea later serves them as an excuse instead of using it as a light on their spiritual journey. Life is change and it is not proper to solve all situation with just one approach. Life is the art of finding proper behaviour and reaction in every situation. Read More…